Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater – Discussion
Nothing is more heartbreaking than being cheated on. But will you forgive them? Or will they do it again or do they deserve forgiveness? People may argue about context, for example: B. said B. was drunk, but isn’t that a lame excuse? Well, we wanted to hear what our readers thought, so we asked 100 men and women if they thought cheaters are always cheaters.
71% said they believe people who cheat will relapse. That seems like a pretty big number, meaning trust seems to be compromised. We also asked if you would forgive your partner for infidelity, and 93% said no.
When we asked them if they cheated on themselves, the interesting answer was that 18% said they had cheated on themselves. So even though they wouldn’t forgive their partner, they have actually been guilty of the same crime in the past.
For those who answered “yes”, we asked why, and 50% (9 out of 18) said their age, and 4 out of 18 said alcohol was a big factor.
We then asked respondents if they had been cheated on, unfortunately 41% admitted to being cheated on by their partner, which is a shocking nearly half. Oh dear Britain, we need more fidelity! The 41 respondents who answered “yes” were then asked what age they were when it happened, and there was a clear split, with no one answering between 30 and 40, and numbers ranging between 20 to 30 and 40 to 50. The risk of the thirties. I’m not sure how much to read into these numbers, but it’s a very interesting point!
One area we looked at was context. It’s so easy to say “once a cheater, always a cheater”, but how did they get there? Infidelity is not usually so clear-cut. You really need to start examining how they got into the situation of infidelity and what factors led to it. For example:
What was the state of the relationship when it happened?
Were you sexually active?
Are you a compulsive liar? What causes this?
Did you enter the relationship at the right time and with the right attitude?
What is the work-life balance like?
A feeling that “something is missing” in the relationship
Is the stress or frustration being channeled in the right direction? Some people take out their anger on their partners and blame their partners for their unhappiness, even if unconsciously.
Feelings of insecurity or insignificance can actually have the opposite effect and cause someone to be unfaithful.
What is their mental state and psychological needs?
These are just some of the factors to consider. None of these are reasonable excuses, but rather interesting insights into the mind of an adulterer. To determine if they would do it again, you need to fully understand why they did it in the first place and see if that issue has been resolved.
More importantly, can you move on and accept her again? If they are against you, the relationship cannot be maintained. It requires complete and absolute trust in each other, which eliminates jealousy, but trust is difficult to overcome once it has been broken.
For some, a relationship may get back on track after an affair and become stronger than ever, while in other cases, the relationship may fail again and lead to new heartbreak. This is a very difficult topic, which is why it is so interesting to discuss and study.
When talking to someone who has actually been unfaithful, the key is that feeling of “something is missing” that seems to come up again and again. They believe that something is missing from their life and that someone new will fill it. This is often based on desire rather than logic to fill a gap in their life because life and relationships can sometimes get boring if they don’t keep things fresh, and bringing in someone new seems to fix that.
A relationship may languish temporarily and the romance may falter until suddenly another possible romance emerges and something inside is ignited, creating an illusion of perfection outside of the romantic relationship. The “old vs. new” attitude leads them astray.
But I want to hear from you. Have you ever been cheated on? Did you forgive them? Or did you forgive them and they cheated on you again? Whatever happened, let us know!
